Unfortunately there was no light at the end of the tunnel because my partner could not and would not admit that he had a problem. He would not commit to a sustained program o treatment and that was my bottom line. He had to stop acting out and stop being fraudulent, he couldn't. I am very sorry that he didn't think enough of our relationship to get help, but I did what I could and eventually felt that I had to save myself as it were.

I don't think you should worry about what anyone else thinks, support groups are non judgemental as everyone is in the same difficult position. Don't let that fear prevent you from getting the help you seek.

Again I would say take a sustained approach to getting healthy. Don't put off doing what you need to do. What have you got to lose...you have everything to gain. Dint risk losing the love and support of your wife. It sounds as if she may need help too, it is available for her.