My sex addicted ex and I finished just before Xmas he had started to see someone else whilst we were still together and talking things through. He told me he didn't want a girlfriend! He had rejoined the site that we had met on and he is back on THE sex site also, I cant stop looking at his details, thinking about him and reading about his exploits. It is so devastating to read women talking about him at different dates through the three years we were together. I feel so stupid so used and worthless and am furious with him but more with myself. He did not allow me to vent my anger towards him or listen to my difficulties. I don't know what to do with my feelings...have been reading so much and have just finished 'The Betrayal Bond' by Patrick Carnes really superb. I suppose that if I just look at his details and not contact him then its ok. I don't look everyday I don't look for hours and I haven't tried to contact him since New Year. I suppose I am being hard on myself we were 'together' for nearly three years after all. I am now putting in boundaries to protect myself and had to decide in the moment what to do I could easily have got into a sexual situation that would have been inappropriate, in my old mode I would have said yes and have got myself into a situation that would have compromised my new outlook and could have meant that I could have been open to exploitation. I feel that I would like to be with someone but know that this is not the time...I am trying to exhibit good self care but I do still feel a little lonely! But not all the time, solitude is becoming quite pleasureable. Also I booked 9 days in St Lucia for myself for Easter hurrah! something special to look forward to....just for me.....because I am worth it, feel better now, thank you forum. Where has everyone gone seems like its just me! Hope everyone is continuing to focus on themselves and taking care! xxxx