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Hi i'm Tammi & I am an Addict!!
Hi All,I have to SLA before and i convinced myself that i was not an addict. But recently things have dropped to such a rock bottom, i feel as if i am losing my mind and am out of control. All my friends and family say 'oh u just need to chill out a bit'... 'he will come along when you least expect it!'I am on 2 online dating websites... I am always in contact with at least 1 man on a daily basis. There is this 1 guy whom i really like and we have benn speaking via email and text since Oct 08 and we met for the first time on Friday... We are due to go to a gig this Friday and i have text him and he he has not text me back... AND my mind is just going mental!! I feel like everytime the phone goes my mind says..is it him? is it him? and the funny thing about it all is that he conciously flirts back with me but then goes 2-3 days without getting in touch!! In my stupid head, i have married him already and we have a great sex life..! Because i feel that he does not want me and i will never be good enough for him, i act out with Sex.. It is Wednesday and i have already had sex with 2 different people!!! I feel disgusted and ashamed of myself as i have not used sex like this for a long time. I have had so many sexual partners, i have lost count and i am starting to feel like i cannot carry onEven if no-one can help - i just needed to get his off my chest. Thank you for listening x
Hello Tammi, I myself am not
Hello Tammi, I myself am not an addict but my husband is, I am no expert and have been seeking support on here myself, My husband went to see his Doctor and she gave my husband lots of options and support so maybe thats a good place to start, he ended up going to Relate as they had an addict counsellor there he has now been in recovery for 12mts and is taking each day as it comes, he is now going to attend his first SLA meeting. Please don't do anything silly as I am sure that once you have someone to talk to you will start to become stronger. I wish you well and hope that you find your inner strength to help you through this time.
Hi Tammy, like 'Bitter not
Hi Tammy, like 'Bitter not me' my husband is an addict. He seeked help 6 weeks into our marriage. I found out and he hit rock bottom. He went to a clinic and is ow in his last week. He will be home next week and will be seeking meetings and sponours, who can help him. Think about find a meeting or someone to talk to, they will help you find your strength. You are not alone and people can help, please stay safe and look after yourself.
Hi Tammi, I am also new to
Hi Tammi, I am also new to this site and trying to come to terms with my own issues. I am a guy and have responded to 'bitter not me' in 'where do I go from here' outlining my circumstances. Anyway I just wanted to let you know I have read and listened and wanted to wish you well in the hope it helps you keep it together. I believe that there is no such thing as not good enough for someone. When you meet the right person, someone suitable and a good match for you then you WILL be good enough for that relationship, when things don't work it is because it isn't a genuine match, not anyones fault. It sounds like this man you are texting perhaps may have his own issues or is really busy and not focussed enough or may not even be single, whatever the reason, painful as it will feel to you right now, if it is meant to be he will make the effort - if not I wish you the strength to move on and find a healthy and satisfying relationship.