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3 October 2008 - 10:20am — roy p
just joined this forum having been away from meetings for a year or so, my work makes it difficult to attend meetings at present but i know i have to get back to them. but for now i hope to get well again through this site,or at least make a start? my acting out was out of hand before i attended slaa, long story, but i turned it around with slaa,but now im in the middle of another affair even though im married and dont love or even fancy this other woman! how crazy am i? its as if i do it because i can? my concience tells me its wrong and my peace of mind is dissapearing again...any comments would be appreciated to help me get back into recovery?
Hi all, Yes I too have been
Hi all, Yes I too have been in recovery from this illness for 3 years (and in another fellowship for longer) and thanks to meetings sponsorship and my higher power have some good recovery, and yet here I am not going to meetings and find myself involved with a man who I am attracted to who is a similar age to me but has told me that he wants to be with a younger woman to have kids (I've had mine and they are grown up) and that I'm just really an interim relationship til he meets that person. I ask myself how I let it get this far. I did stop it a while back but went back in because I'm lonely and miss being with someone. I need to be really strong and get myself out of this relationship and am praying for the strength to do this. I can't get to a meeting today so am grateful that I can share on this forum. Thank you to all those who have posted on here. Roy p I think awareness is the beginning of correction and I see from your later post that you have gotten out of that relationship. This gives me strength thank you.
Hi I understand how
Hi
I understand how difficult it can be to be in recovery in this stuff & need to work away from home, sometimes abroad where there aren't even any AA meetings. I have spent about 18 months of the past 3 years of my recovery in SLAA many many miles from meetings or abroad, with no access to the normal tools we use to stay well - meetings, telephone outreach calls, having a sponsor, being able to sponsor or being able to work the Steps. Our addiction in this area makes us do crazy things, which is what makes it an addiction.
You are doing really well by seeing where you are, and what you are doing, so be kind to yourself. There are online meetings , although I have found them very complicated to understand & the times are all wrong for me, especially if I have no access to a computer with privacy. This website forum may help - at least you can know that you are not alone. I believe eventually this website will have a chatroom facility which may help some people reach out.
When you get a chance, reconnect with your initial recovery & try out another meeting - any 12 Step meeting can help if things get desperate.
All the best & let us know how you get on.
thankyou nero for your
thankyou nero for your reply,i do appreciate it,i have now ended an affair i was having and am hoping to get well again,which i know i can do if i try hard enough and even get back to slaa meetings, i do go to a twelve step group every week but dont share my sex addiction there...thanks again nero
it is amazing how we can
it is amazing how we can slip up in this addiction, so slowly, subtly, swiftly, or...? I had two full years of total absitnance, and am gettting back on track, maybe ten days sober at this point, in full withdrawel, with PTSD body memories, it sucks. I know it works, as it has worked for me in the past. Best of luck to you, and to you all!
LewG