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Hi, I know that I need help and I want to attend meetings but I am terrified for many reasons. I am 28 living in Central London, I am going through court cases for being sexually abused and I know that part of my behaviour stems from the abuse that happened to me for 16 years.

I have tried therapy it has worked but now I am stuck on my own. I want to change and I need to change.

I am a man frightened of other men. Though I know that I must put one step forward and make a move. Can anyone suggest anything for me? A meeting to go to?

Thanks

Raibearch

Mate, Please do not be

Mate,

Please do not be scared of coming to a meeting. All you will find there is a lot of friendly but hurt people who want to get better through the love and support of other people. I was scared of going and i have to say, the first time i went I reacted against it and decided everyone was mad and nuts etc etc. I didnt go again for a month but then something made me realise i needed to and that my problem hadnt gone away on its own. There are lots of people there who have suffered abuse and others who havent, and you will be welcome. All I can say is that this is the best thing i have ever done. To go into a place where people are welcoming and where you can be open and admit you feel shit or fucked up or are not in a good place, is liberating in itself. I know i have started on a journey to healing myself with this programme. I cant express it any better. I know that this has changed and saved my life. Please do not be afraid to give it a try.

Daniel

Hi Raibearch, It's fortunate

Hi Raibearch,

It's fortunate that you live in London, you can attend meetings either in the morning or later in the evening. The only way to know which meeting is better than another is to start going to them. People in this fellowship tend to go to several meetings a week, so you'll soon find that there will be people you've seen at one venue appearing at others, and soon things won't feel so unfamiliar for you.

 

One meeting that might appeal to you is the young persons' meeting which has many twenty-somethings, like you, in attendance. It's on Thursday, so you could even go this week. Daytime meetings are also very well attended and only last an hour, many go to them during lunch breaks.

 

To newcomers, the idea of going to meetings is always scarier than actually turning up. Once you've taken that step, you'll think nothing of it and meetings will become part of your recovery. If you're concerned regarding your vulnerability, you'll find that in fellowship, anyone with an ulterior motive would rapidly lose interest in attending meetings. The people that occupy the rooms and keep coming back are those who want a better life and support each other in this goal.

 

I hope this helps,

Narcissus 

If you always do what you've always done, you always get what you've always got.

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