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Hi All, sorry for late
Hi All, sorry for late notice but there will be NO meeting in Henley-on-Thames tonight, 27th October 2011.
The meeting is generally small but incredibly gentle, honest and nurturing. We could really do with more support and hope to see some new faces soon. Please do join us.
Kindest healing wishes for you all
Rachel B
D Baker
D Baker
Hi my Name is Veronica and I
Hi my Name is Veronica and I have started to go to the meeting just couple of weeks ago.
I have been to 3 meetings so far...and I have decided that I would like to carry on with the program.
I am in a destroying relationship at the moment, and I want to give up and close this door but I feel stuck.
My partner is a lyar and I am having anxiety panick attacks and my mental health is starting to deteriorating.
I need a sponsor somebody who can put me or giude me through.
I have been living this situation for 8 months now and I am feeling exsosted....
Can somebody help?
Cannot get rid of her but throught the meeting I have understood that I am so codependent that isnt her but its me and we are both.
Living at the moment with strees and unhappiness.
Please can anybody help?
Veronica I live in London
Dear All, A quick note to
Dear All,
A quick note to let you all know that there will not be a meeting at Henley-on-Thames on Wednesday 27th April and that meetings will resume on 4th May. The meeting on 20th April is still going ahead.
Please keep coming back, its a great meeting with lovely recovery and a wonderful location to boot.
Rachel B
Hello, members of SLAA
Hello, members of SLAA HOW,
I am seeking a sponsor to take me through the 6th step and beyond. I joined HOW in the US in June 2010. I now have 20 months of sobriety on the bottom line of no contact with my Q, a woman who was my therapist.
I have email and Skype and will consider getting a long distance telephone plan.
I am a lesbian in a 10-year relationship with a woman. Will work with either male or female sponsor.
Karen P.
[email address removed by moderator]
hi my name is raja,i'm from
hi my name is raja,i'm from calcutta in india...i've been having an affair for the last year and a half...and i'm married...as a result my marriage was on the rocks,as my wife got to know of the affair...two days ago i broke off from the affair and i'm going through hell...i've deleted her facebook contact,telephone numbers...the pain is becoming unbearable to the extent that i'm getting panic attacks...i'm also a recovering addict and am clean for 3 years 6 months...this is the most difficult situation i have ever faced in my life...i'm in touch with some friends in london...who have advised me to get online with SLAA....i'm planning to come to london on the 1st of september...but i'm just suffering like crazy...my head is full of my girlfriend...and on the other hand i have infant daughters who are so beautiful...and a very supportive wife...this period is killing me...i'm asking God for help in my prayers,but the next moment i'm again full of thoughts of this woman...need help desperately
Hi, Raja (English is not my
Hi, Raja (English is not my native language , but i will try to do the best)
1 year ago I faced a situation similar to yours...I disclosed my unfaithful to my wife. In my case I couldn"t keeping on living parallel lives so I confessed my wife that I had visited prostitutes when she was giving me her whole confidence...I felt so bad, really bad, but it was my first step (a very hard step to recognize that many things was not right inside of me).
Raja, I was aware that I had sexual concerns, based on dependence/addiction to sexual thoughts that lead me later to depraved behaviors. I found places (Rooms, web sex pages, videos, prostitutes) and a stuff of options to satisfy my starved sexual apettite.
Sudenly my life became to a porn movie, full of fantasies and sex illness.. My soul started to loss its brightness. I became a very sad person who needed to increase every time more and more his level of satisfaction but at the end I was thirsty and hungry again..
Painful and loneliness derivated of my potential marriage rupture helped me to be sincere with my self...I realized that sexual addiction was my manner to face anxiety, fear of change, deppression, immatureness to be responsible, to make decissions (at my job, at home, at my emotional life).
Raja it is a simple rule of market: when you have a demand necessarily appears on the scene an offer...
Whether low self-esteem, self-respect, anxiety, fear to the past or future, guilty (and other erroneous zones) are mixed I need a way to allievate all these loads. The same way I choose sexual (love adiction is also possible) addiction I could choose drug, alcohol, my job -inclussive- to avoiding my self.
Raja your life up to you, YOU ARE NOT A PUPPET, a machine whose destiny is being leaded from one side to another one...YOU CHOOSE THIS SITUATION, YOU CHOOSE THIS AFFAIR
Learn about it, your heart is asking Are you happy? See your suportive wife, yours daughters...DO NOT ALLOW THIS SHIPWRECK!
Please read as soon as you can "Your erroneous zones" by Wayne Dyer and "Amar o depender (LOve or Dependence. See the video about Tony Melendez on youtube...See video of Nick Vujicick on youtube...
Something deep on you will appear..
See You Raja...
Dexter
Becoming a new man...
hi raja, i'm not sure if you
hi raja, i'm not sure if you still log on to this site - but i just had to reply after reading your post. So much of what you have had to go thru has happened to me in terms of marriage, kids, another woman, the pain of separation. Can't describe the pain I felt over the last month but, slowly, very slowly a little bit of me has recovered. There are still way too many things that trigger my memories and thoughts back to her but I know that change is necessary and working on my marriage and being with my family is the most important thing. Hope you are doing o.k and managing to get through each day. Prayers for you.